When parents separate and where possible, we know the best arrangement by far (research supports this) for children is where they have two homes and spend substantial time with both parents at weekends and mid-week and both parents share in the children’s upbringing and development.
In practice shared parenting means;
children spending ordinary and fun times with each parent;
children sleeping, eating, working and playing in each home;
each parent listening and talking to the children;
the parents sharing the big decisions about the children’s lives;
each parent being involved in the children’s schools, sport, music and other activities;
each parent being fully aware of the physical, intellectual and emotional health of the children;
children being part of two extended families grandparents, uncles and aunts, cousins, friends.
Sometimes this ideal arrangement for children of shared parenting is not practically possible, perhaps because of distance, work commitments, financial or the health of parents. However, it is important for the health, emotional and educational development of children that as much as possible of the ideal shared parenting arrangement be implemented.
Shared parenting after separation is making sure that children spend large amounts of time in both homes with both parents and their extended families. It means that kids have both mother and father directly involved in the decisions and activities that contribute to their health, welfare and development.
Staying connected in meaningful relationships is what helps children survive family break-up and eventually thrive in their new family situation. Shared parenting is the best solution for children after separation and divorce. Children enjoy continued love and interaction with both parents and their extended families, and a lessening of emotional trauma due to family upheaval.
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